What to do instead of an icebreaker

They ask for personal disclosure and performance from people who have no trust in the room yet, and they reward exactly the confidence the session is supposed to distribute more evenly.

They also signal that the next hour is not serious, which is expensive in any session touching harassment prevention, which is a hard signal to take back.

A question about the work that everybody can answer in one line, in writing. "What is one thing that slowed you down last week." Everyone contributes, nobody performs, and you get real material to teach from.

You can be warm without asking somebody to be funny on command.

For a multi-day program where the group has to trust each other, yes. Build it over the first two sessions instead of extracting it in the first ten minutes.

Trust earned slowly holds under pressure. Trust manufactured with a game does not survive the first disagreement.

Same rule, with more patience. Shared written work builds familiarity faster than forced social time, because people learn how each other thinks rather than what their hobbies are.

Want this applied to your own session?

Book twenty minutes and bring the agenda you are stuck on.